My dogs sleep in the bed, always have, always will. They're not posessive of it, and will get down instantly when asked, they know the rules, therefor, they get the privelage of being up... Boo had a tough time learning the rules, and was banned from the bed for the first few weeks, then I gave him a shot, but he got put down (cant get up on his own) any time he climbed over me, or growled... now he's a good little bed warmer!