Wasn't Tx's post great!! also, it's great to help you feel a lil more confident you ARE doing a lot of things right for this dog! It sounds like, with the kids home, you will have plenty of chances to help this dog begin to make positive associations to noises. ah, i see, about the name, got it. "Ken" okay then! Your reasoning there make good sense, i get it. Re: the mailman, i myself have no problems whatsoever with my dog barking to announce any and all ppl near my home, is A-OKAY with me! I am always surprised at ppl who don't like that to happen, really. My dog did NOT bark to announce visitors approaching, and i specifically trained him to do so. I did, using treats, a clicker, and his cue to "speak", getting Buddy to "speak" for each knock. It took me over a week to get Buddy to understand, he should bark if he hears a knock or a doorbell. After that, he decided on his own, to pre-emptively bark at all approachers, and i am happy with his decision on that, and fully support it. I WANT him to bark for that, i really do. I think of this as benefit of having a dog. If i am not home, i want Buddy in there barking to let anyone know "there IS a dog in here!" If i AM home, and i don't hear them knocking, i sure will hear Buddy announcing that we have company. My dog stops barking when i get to the door, and he does sit for me opening the door, (he needs occasional reminders, lol) and it's not a problem, not for me, anyway, Buddy being an extra "doorbell"....it's part of his "job". Lol, so maybe your mate can be off the hook! hee hee!! but i guess every home has to figure out if they want their dogs to bark for ppl at the door or not.