No no no no....lol, sorry. Being a good leader is fantastic, and it is indeed important that you know how to be one. It's good that you've learned this. But the problems you're running into can be solved other ways. The right trainer can teach you how to solve these problems with positive methods. Certain corrections are not all that "bad" in my view but I don't use them. Prong collars are one of my biggest pet peeves---I see it as the trainer being too lazy to train the dog(this is NOT an insult on you, please understand). There are many ways to leash train your dog and I have never once had a dog who "needed" a prong collar. Yes, your trainer will instruct you to put it on your arm and tug, proving it doesn't hurt. Forgive me, but bull crap. Put one on your neck and see how it feels. High on a dog's neck is even worse. It's painful.
The biggest thing I look for is not
improvement with corrections, but the dog's body language in response to the corrections. Just because the dog does what you want doesn't mean they are comfortable with it. It may be tiny signs--a slight muscle tension for a split second, the ears falling back, etc. As has been mentioned, Border Collies are sensitive dogs and can easily regress in rough hands. I have worked with many and own two, all using positive training methods even for a wide variety of behavior problems(herding, aggression, etc). I have never had to use corrections on a BC. I had several other trainers suggest them, but these dogs easily overcame their issues through positive training methods and they went home to extremely happy owners. If your dog is consistently having trouble in training sessions doing recalls, then perhaps there is something in that situation that she isn't comfortable with. (A certain dog, the correction trainer, or who knows what else.) I am a firm believer that if a dog is not doing a behavior they know to do, then either the trainer is doing something wrong or there is some kind of negative association with the behavior.
I too believe that the type of training should revolve around the dog's personality, but still in my experience I have never needed to use corrections for any behavior problems. My rescued BC was neglected for the first three years of her life---this led to food aggression. Through positive training ONLY, she is perfect now and I could sit my teacup chihuahua in her food bowl and her tail will wag and she's fine with it. My Rottie mix has dog aggression issues, which we have only used positive training to fix. He's improved leaps and bounds and is doing wonderful. My BC/ACD has always been extremely timid and has had some fear aggression issues. Fixed with positive reinforcement. Granted, he still has room to improve, but timid dogs are difficult to work with and take lots of time to improve. I recently trained an 8-month-old BC who had a severe herding problem and a very short attention span. Her owners had brought in a variety of trainers who had tried corrections and many other things, to no avail. None of them understood that she needed positive training and that they had to be much more interesting than the outside world. When she left me, she knew all her basics, how to walk properly, and no herding issues---I never corrected her, ever.
If your dog isn't listening the first time, be more interesting. BCs are also great at motion tricks---so if you've been working on come over and over and over again, your active little girl is probably quite bored with it. Work on spins or leg weaves or jumps or whatever. Then go back to the come. If she doesn't respond to the command, pretend she doesn't know it. Go back to the beginning. Dogs often need a reminder in distracting environments---this means going back to the beginning. Early in training(your dog is fairly early in training still) dogs may need reminders. If I take Mud to Petsmart on a really busy day and she starts to pull, I'll either stop and give my command for coming back to my left side, or I will turn around and walk away--just as she was originally trained. She always improves immediately. It's simply the excitement of the busy store with so many dogs and people. That's a fairly big distraction. I can't correct her for being distracted. That's like beating a kid for forgetting how to do multiplication when he hasn't known it all that long.
Clickers will also work well for her. As CollieMan also mentioned, I have used the little rear tap for a dog not paying attention to the sit. Mud's done a small amount of sheep work(not TRIALS, but more like farm work) and I've used only positive training. She's great. If she did something she shouldn't when we were training off-leash(usually because she got overexcited), all I did was call her back to me and do some tricks or heelwork to chill her out, then send her back out again. Rusty, my Rottie mix, also has done some work with sheep and also was only taught with positive methods. He's almost as good as the BCs, lol!
Corrections teach the dog to do the behavior "OR ELSE." Not because they want to please you or they want to please themselves, but rather just to avoid the correction. No matter how much they seem to be "improving," they're working out of fear of the correction. I want a dog who walks well because he respects me, or performs commands because he wants to and it's a positive experience---NOT because if he doesn't I'm going to jab some prongs in his neck or shake him.
My apologies, I am NOT trying to razz you...but you did question your trainer's suggestions, and this is simply my reply to them. If you wanted to stay positive in the beginning and now you're feeling uncomfortable with these methods, then obviously there needs to be a change. In my opinion, the dog and trainer should always be completely comfortable in training. It's obvious you have second thoughts, and I guarantee you your dog isn't too fond of them either. BCs are sometimes excellent at hiding discomfort to either please the owner or get the job done. Keep that in mind.
Good luck to you, and again please understand none of this is meant to offend you.
