Oh well I understand that, I would get a trainer for Missy if I had it. I'm all alone when it comes to training Missy, because my 6 siblings don't like her or my dad , my mom is okay about her. Find anyone you can to introduce to Brody, someone who will be patient and listen to you. Do any of your older kids like him if so maybe one of their friends will help you. Also one thing I do is go to places where there are dogs and find somewhere to keep a distance and work with Missy, you could do this with people for Brody.There's no money in the budget for that. Hubby is the breadwinner, and he would rather get rid of him than shell out hundreds of dollars to a trainer to make him better.
Sounds like we have a lot in common! There are 7 kids in your family? Most people think I am nuts for having 5! I love big families.Oh well I understand that, I would get a trainer for Missy if I had it. I'm all alone when it comes to training Missy, because my 6 siblings don't like her or my dad , my mom is okay about her. Find anyone you can to introduce to Brody, someone who will be patient and listen to you. Do any of your older kids like him if so maybe one of their friends will help you. Also one thing I do is go to places where there are dogs and find somewhere to keep a distance and work with Missy, you could do this with people for Brody.
Also could you put Brody in a bedroom while guest are over, that way he couldn't see them and give him some toys to keep him busy.
Like I said before my family does not like Missy, but I don't care I love her and that's all that matters. Just brush any harsh comments about brody off, who cares what they think, you know Brody is a good boy and why he behaves like he does.
Good post!!!!!!!!!! I agree, get your husband and daughter to see the 'fun/good' Brody!I have four siblings (I'm the middle child of five).
Do your husband and daughter ever get to see the good fun bits of Brody?
Lewis hates people coming to our house, even people who visit multiple times a week he still hasn't accepted them (although he does calm down if put in his crate or held). So no one likes him except the people who live here.
When my Nana was here last week (for some reason Lewis isn't as bad with Nana but she still doesn't risk patting him). She was here for a while and Lewis relaxed after a bit and started to play with a toy. When Lewis plays with a toy it is pretty funny and my Nana was laughing at him and by the time he had finished she liked him more.
So basically, my Nana got to see a side of Lewis (a fun non-jerk side) that only people who live with him normally see and it made her like him more. No matter how much we tell people that Lewis is a cuddly baby at home, it's hard for them to believe it when he is such a nutter around them.
So maybe it would help your husband and daughter if you could somehow show them the good bits of Brody so they will like him more and be more willing to help him/be more understanding.
Maybe get them to give him his dinner so that he associates them with good things.
I know how you feel about the brother thing. My brother and dad can be yerks to Missy and they both live with me. Missy is a very sensitive girl if someone yells at her she runs to my room tail tucked. She knows that she is safe there. Thankfully though after years of "training" my brother has learned never to put his hands on my dog or yell at her same with my dad. If they try I pick her up and take her to my room. (Know if only I could pick up Chase) Man I can't wait for my jerk of a brother moves out, hopefully soon(he's 21)The teasing is probably why Brody doesn't like them.
The person that Lewis hates the absolute most is my older brother. He doesn't live with us but the first time he met Lewis he teased him and got all angry and offended at Lewis' growling and barking even though he was warned that Lewis went nuts at strangers at our house and he should just ignore Lewis. Mum had to tell him that trying to intimidate Lewis into not barking isn't going to work.
So now Lewis goes absolutely crazy when he comes round and will not calm down. Normally we just have to pick Lewis up or put him in his crate to calm him down but neither work very well when my brothers here even if we keep Lewis in a different room.
And then my brother makes it even worse because if Lewis does start to calm down a bit he will stomp his feet so Lewis starts going nuts again
I think if Lewis ever did bite anyone it would be my brother, he just hates him sooo much. We don't let Lewis near him anymore.
But I don't like that brother either (he really is a "not very nice person") and thankfully he doesn't visit very often, my parents go to his house.
There is a trainer who volunteers her time at my local SPCA to do a training course for dogs and their families. She does this so that (hopefully) less dogs will be surrendered because of behavior issues. The class is completely free. I think maybe I mentioned it on this forum before, so I'm sorry if I'm repeating myself. I just think it's areally great idea. I hear so many people say they can't afford training classes... to surrender a dog at our shelter costs $50... so a free training class looks good to those people who really do wish they could work things out.There's no money in the budget for that. Hubby is the breadwinner, and he would rather get rid of him than shell out hundreds of dollars to a trainer to make him better.
I have tried the analogies. More eye-rolling. Little compassion.I can see how you're placed, not the best. Just one thought at present (it's very late here and I'm ready for bed, the brain's already asleep). Is there anything that you can use as an analogy that relates directly to your husband and Becky? May be two different ones of course, which will 'wake them up' that Brody will not just 'get over it"?.
For example, was Becky ever afraid of the dark when she was little? That type of thing, something THEY have been afraid of and needed some comfort/help to get over the fear. It just may help to get them to realize that Brody is afraid and needs help to over come his fear.
Or something they really dislike anyone doing to them, which makes them angry (not Brody related of course). A reminder that they don't like xyz may make them realize that what they're doing at times, especially your husband, is teasing Brody (like hugging Becky when Brody's in his crate) and they don't like to be teased, so neither does Brody.
Will try to think of anything else in the morning.
I'm so happy to hear you still have Rory and that he is making progress, slow though it may be. I was worried as the thread ended rather suddenly.I still have Rory and he is improving but very, very, slowly. It's better than nothing though and that's just normal for extreme cases like him. Him being 'calm' for more than a half a second is amazing. X)
There are 3 things you can do; start training Brody, bring Brody to a shelter, or re-home Brody to a family that can train him.
If Brody is not having the best life he can have, (he is locked up all day, he doesn't get a lot of attention, he doesn't get a lot of exercise) and you and your family are trying your best but things aren't working out, there is nothing wrong with re-homing Brody. It seems from what you've told us that he isn't in need of re-homing. It seems like you probably can train Brody to behave and he isn't in need of dire re-homing. BUT, if things actually are out of control, re-homing him to a better family is your second best option. Brody just needs someone who can take a few months to work with him, he isn't a bad dog. The last option would be to send him to the shelter\pound, and he would most likely be put down because of his behavioral problems, which IMO seem minor. Him being in shelter is the worst thing for him because 1) The shelter is a nerve-racking place, strange people and dogs are everywhere and things are loud and scary. He might become worse at the shelter and then no one will adopt him. 2)Being terrified and missing your family is an awful way to spend your last moments alive…. Not many people would agree with me on this, but I think it would be more humane to put down a dog that can't be re-homed where he is happy and spends his last moments with his family rather than spend it in a shelter stresses and scared.
Can you give me a list of all of Brody's bad behaviors please so I know exactly what your dealing with. It think you just need to make a plan of what you're going to do, and have the family participate.