Welcome to DTA!
I like your description of your dog

, have you thought that your dog would probably write almost exactly the same post if she could type? "My owner has an overactive imagination - they think they are the boss!"

My sister took her dog to class and the trainer (not IMO a good one) told her that she needed to SHOW she had stronger will than the dog, my sister replied with complete frankness, "but I know he's got a stronger will than me!" The trainer was speechless, LOL



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There are several people on here who have alpha females (from your posts so far I'm not sure that you have one, she sounds more simply dog aggressive) and I see you've already found at least
one of the threads about dealing with the problems. I hope you find something that works, I'm sure you'll get good answers from the other thread but in the mean time you might like to look at a thread about
helping the dog aggressive dog. I'd go with the ideas in Tigerlily's second post about desensitisation and only using distraction in an emergency. If you need stones in a can to distract her you are way over her threshold.