i am a positive trainer with a traditional background (punishment based). i'm currently taking a karen pryor clicker class which is different and great. why change?? i stayed open minded and tried all. the best thing about positive is that there is no downside. rewards don't have a bad side unless u hand them out for nothing. punishment, dominance, intimidation do work but they have a downside. fear, aggression, etc. if u are unsure of the possibility of this go visit a shelter and ask to see fearful dogs. i have one that isgenetically shy. punishment does not work well. positive taught her agility, rally, her cgc certigication, service dog 4 me, and freestyle. i also fostered a petrified foster that was petrified of collars. wonder why..
good news is that foster is a happy dog in a forever home today when she was unadoptable before.
i disagree a little with my spouse too. how about a contest teaching with clicker vs punishment. not anything extreme but i bet u and ur clicker win at anything that doesn’t involve cowering like down. pick something a little complicated and fun like a roll over or shake.
think too of all the service dogs out there. can u imagine anyone dominating them into taking clothes from the wash and putting into the dryer? hard eh? go to the professionals with degrees and see how they teach, all positive. look at the ongoing research at vetmed teaching hospitals-positive. is it right for u?? gotta try.
the latest research is currently centered on the discovery of how small aversive can be to poison a cue. even a very slight leash tug has been demonstrated to cause negative effects, less compliance, less attempts at compliance.
dr Nicolas Dodman wrote a new book with loads of references that might lead u to good resources it's called the well adjusted dog.
pyr's tend to be very independent because they are bred to think for themselves and guard livestock in the absence of humans. if you engage the breeding traits of your dog to work WITH u to get what u want u'll be more likely to get what u want = what the dog wants. i have Goldens so i use their desire to fetch to enforce comes or shape a go to mat etc.
i try to remember too that man spent thousands of years breeding dogs to be submissive to him. we don't really need to dominate them at this point they are already primed to please us and i would rather have a wiggly dog dying to please than one that might get even a little worried about me.
i liken dominating an independent dog to dominating a teenager....you usually get rebellion at some point in spades. one thing to agree on tho very soon, hopefully before getting puppy us to agree on basic training style & method. as w/kids dissention creates confusion. how about enrolling in a puppy class to get exposure to what training is out there and ever important socialization. that's how i learned AND it was fun. good luck with ur new pup!!
No criticism implied just some info that will help u make decisions I hope.