If Missy doesn't like little kids why does she feel the need to get involved?
I really don't know. I find it odd becuase she is so protective over our other animals. For example when my parakeet gets on the floor she follows him around not letting Piper near. Or once our cat Sophie got on the table and Chase went to pull her off Missy jumped in front of Chase growling. When my first nephew William was a baby she would check on him every time he cried.
Can you teach an incompatible behaviour?
Not sure what behavior I could use. For Piper I used getting a toy instead of jumping on people.
Can you give Missy a safe place/anchor point?
Missy's safe spot is my room. But Lizzie is in my room a lot because she enjoys playing in it, kind of like her room away from home. She used to try and bite my nephews when they were younger baby 1, 2 years old when they came into my room. I stopped that by creating a bubble in a sense around them, I still never let them go in my room when they were real little by themselves. Lizzie though goes in my room whenever so I end up having Missy follow me around the house a lot when Lizzie is in my room. I could use Piper's crate, since Piper only sleeps in it every now and than by choice.
Are there places where Missy finds the child less of a problem - outside at a little distance perhaps?
I've never had her outside when the kids are playing. I could try this out with Missy on leash.
Sorry if I sound harsh, I respect you and your care for your animals and family very very highly, more than you can guess. That's exactly why I don't want you to make the culpable mistake of inattention I made a few weeks ago which resulted in Zac chasing a wild animal which died as a result. Injury or worse to a child would be something you would never forgive yourself for.
No, you don't sound harsh at all. I would be so upset with myself if Missy were to bite Lizzie, Lizzie is my buddy and I love that child so much I can't put it into words. And not only that I want Missy to be comfortable and relaxed when they are over and I would like the same for myself. I'm always ready to jump up if a kid screams or if Lizzie goes to pet Missy, I redirect Lizzie to Piper to pet..
And count your blessings, at least Missy is honest about how she feels. I have friends with grandchildren, one of their dogs is lovely as long as they are watching but as soon as she gets the kids alone she intentionally knocks them over.
Yes, I'm glad Missy gives clear distinctive warnings.
Thank you so much for the advice I really appreciate it and will put it to use next time the kiddos come over.
